In this section of planning your wedding, it is up to you to come up with some ideas. You are getting the process of planning your wedding started, which is no easy task. Before you can make big decisions though, you need to work together to come up with a number of different things, especially knowing what your both are hoping for.
Take a deep breath. You do not have to do this alone. Many more women and men are hiring wedding planners to help them to plan their wedding. You do not have to have an endless budget to hire these planners. Rather, they simple account for a portion of your budget. The rest is what they get to work with.
Second, you may have parents who can help you with the planning. You may not want them to do so, though. Your goal for this step, then, is to determine if you will hire a wedding planner, use friends and family, or go it alone. Keep in mind that there is a lot to do, especially if you are planning your wedding in just a few short weeks. In addition, if you work full time, have children or otherwise are limited by the amount of time you have, hiring a professional is a good idea.
Let us assume you do hire a wedding planner in this step. The good news is that there are fantastic professionals out there to aid you in the process. The bad news is that there are some not so good professionals. Here are tips to help you with this decision.
- Learn about the wedding planner, including what type of experience they have planning weddings.
- Ask them about their ability to plan a wedding within your budget.
- Ask for references from couples who have used their services and contact them.
- Note that wedding planners do require a down payment, but you should not have to pay for all of their services up front.
- Do sign a contract that outlines everything these professionals will do for you and will not do for you. Be sure to hold on to a copy for yourself, too.
If you do plan to do the planning of your wedding on your own, you will need to take some specific considerations. You will need to call people, to interview people and to research anyone that you hire for any of the services you have at your wedding.
In the following chapters, you will be given ideas about each professional, but full research of these companies has to be done. Be sure you have invested a good deal of time in planning your wedding. It really cannot just be on weekends and lunch breaks!
- Set aside time to review your plans thus far.
- Note that you will likely run into obstacles along the way. It is normal to do so.
- Realize you may have to reach out for help at some point and that should be okay.
- Keep in mind that you both can work on the wedding together.
- Give yourself time each weekend to get caught up on wedding planning tasks.
Now that you know who is doing the planning, the next step is to know what to plan. In the following pages, you will be given specific tasks to accomplish. Be sure that you are diving right in and making decisions. There is often plenty of decisions to be made, too. The good news is that you will not miss anything through this guide.
You will have to make decisions about what you want, though. Take note of what your goals are. Remember to make decisions and later, if you need to, you can come back and make changes to those goals if you need to.
Finally, before moving on, it is time to work on your guest list. You will not have hard numbers right now, but your goal is to have an estimated number of people to plan for. At every other stage in the process, you will need to know about how many people will attend.
- Work with your parents to get a guest list going.
- Do not forget the other side of the family, too.
- Talk about friends, family, relatives, neighbors, your parent’s friends…anyone who may want to be there.
- Leave pairing down the wedding to later.
- Realize that your wedding can be as intimate as you would like it to be or as large as you want.